Guide to being girly

I got a very interesting request from someone today & at first I kind of laughed it off but the more I thought about it the more it made sense. Basically a girl who will of course remain nameless came to me with a little bit of a dilemma - apparently I’m a girly girl & she wanted to know how I did it..how I did it? Well it comes naturally to me because its just the way I’m wired. The main reason she came to me with the question was because in her own eyes she wasn’t girly enough, personally I think that’s a lil silly but I can relate to all the self criticism so really I cant blame her for doing it. Most modern dictionaries class “girly girl” as “a very feminine girl. Very feminine in her movements. Very feminine looking. What you call a girl that is very feminine.” - in a nutshell that really is what it is & I’m happy with that description. So of course going by that description I’m definitely a girly girl so I’m putting this guide together just for her & for any girls out there who might need a little help girlying up their image. Before I start I do want to say something - changing your image to suit other people is never a good idea & its something I’m strongly opposed to. I’m the way I am because its me & because its who & what I am - the people who think being such a way makes you weak or a sissy are just plain stupid & are really only showing their own ignorance by thinking that way. So all that aside its time for my guide of how to achieve the ultimate girly girl image - be warned there is a lot of work involved.

The first mistake people make is assuming its all in the look, its not. A huge part of the image is in you’re movements - think of the old trick of walking with a book on your head, this is what you are aiming for & it works. Be graceful in your stride & try to knock off all the clumsiness, jerkiness doesn’t work - try to go for a more fluid almost floaty walk.

When it comes to make-up concentrate on not over doing it. When it comes to the actual make-up itself go with lip gloss/a lil eyeliner in your everyday look. Eye shadow works but its easy to overdo it if you are not sure what you are doing - when it comes to foundation remember not to cake it on otherwise you wont get the flawless look, as for the colours themselves if you are really going for the girly girl look then pinks or lighter colours are a must.
Keep your nails healthy & clean, one of the first things people subconsciously notice are your nails. Half bitten of chewed up nails only say one thing & its not good - start to get manicures/pedicures, they can be costly but its worth it - if you don’t want to splash out all the time then learn to do your own nails.

Your hair needs to be kept in tip top shape. Try to wash your hair everyday - sure some people don’t have the time but do try to wash your hair as often as you can manage. Try to cut back on using too many hair products because the more you do use then the more likely the chances are you are damaging your hair. Try to avoid hair straightners too as they do more damage than good - invest in a good hairbrush with proper bristles, it will make the world of difference.
Work on keeping your teeth nice & white & if you can then do brush after every major meal. professional whitening can be expensive but it can be worth it - home whitening kits do work too & often give good results.
Eat healthy & drink plenty of fluids especially water - try to fit fruit into your diet or at least as a light snack. This doesn’t mean you need to starve yourself it just means you should keep a healthy balance going between what you do eat. People always look at me & assume straight away that I’m not a big eater, that’s not the case at all I do eat & eat well I just maintain a good balance between everything I do eat & its not a hard thing to learn.

Tattoos don’t work for the image - they simply are not cute, even the little fake peel off ones don’t work.

Shopping..one of my favourite things in life is shopping, this is also where the girly girl look shines the most. Stick to dresses & skirts & if you are going to wear jeans then make sure they fit perfectly & compliment your body. Dresses are the easiest item of clothing to achieve the girly girl look & many stores offer a big supply of dresses to choose from. When I want to buy a dress I usually go to shops like TopShop/Miss Selfridge/Dorothy Perkins/Bebe & it’s a good place to start. Dressing girly doesn’t always mean frilly pink dresses & overly cute outfits - it can mean that you follow the latest fashions & style, if you don’t have the confidence to be constantly showing your legs then you can combine mini skirts & dresses with jeans or funky leggings. It might seem like too much extra effort but wearing matching underwear & sets will definitely make you feel girly, I always make sure to compliment my outfits with the proper style/design/material of underwear - it’s a small part of the girly girl image that people usually overlook.

Learn to accessorize your outfits with matching jewellery, its really easier than it sounds. Do read fashion mags or sites to develop your own style - its always better to develop your own style than to ultimately copy someone else’s. perfume is a must too so try to find your own signature spray.

Attitude is a big part of it too - be bright & bubbly don’t be bitchy, giggling about everything wont appeal to people & it will most likely annoy them so try to find a common ground between being cute & helping people laugh. Never yell it doesn’t do any favours - not taking yourself too seriously also helps maintain a bright & bubbly personality. Swearing? This is never cute & you should try to replace swear words with lighter words or phrases like “oh my god”.
As for activities & hobbies it doesn’t really matter as much as people think, for instance all the activities I like already are perceived as girly. I really enjoy shopping with friends/love having my nails & hair done - basically anything girly I like & my bedroom is testament to that in all its girlyness..we are talking disney princess here people, true not a lot of people will kit their surroundings out in all things pink & fluffy but it does help. Overall just go with & do what you feel most comfortable with , if you think you are overdoing it..you probably are - learn when to slow down & don’t create too much work for yourself.

Being a girly girl doesn’t mean you need to act like a 15 or 16yr old its quiet the opposite. If done right your girly girl image will portray you as someone who strongly cherishes your femininity in a way that makes you feel confident with your image. For me being a girly girl means I’m classy in my choice of clothes & refined in my movements & action - this does not mean I’m a stereotypical Barbie girl, it doesn’t mean I’m ditzy either. Being a girly girl shows you are in touch with your femininity/confident with your style & overall look, the confidence that can be gained from perusing your femininity can be a shock to some people so in turn they wont try it. Like I already said don’t try to change your image for other people instead only change or work on what you yourself want to improve.